For the past weeks I've been thinking a lot about myself, my story, my achievements, my failures. Right now I'm grateful for all the good and even the bad, because thankfully the bad has made me appreciate the good more and also I've learnt a lot from my mistakes. So, I guess I don't regret anything. However, there's a few things that I would like to tell to other women in their 20's and hopefully you can take something from it. My advice has no basis, more reliable, than my own meandering experience. So, here is my advice:
1- Love and accept yourself completely.
I am convinced that many mistakes I did could have been avoided if when I was younger had accepted the good and the bad in me. After you learn to love yourself you can love and accept others. That is very important for healthy relationships with others.
2- Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth.
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded, but trust me in 10 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp how much possibility lay before you, and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you think you are.
3- Surround yourself with positive people.
This is very important, happy shiny people will always make you feel good and energised. Avoid people who are always complaining and who are constantly criticising others.
4- Don't waste your time on jealousy.
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and in the end, it's only with yourself.
5- Don't worry about the future.
Just enjoy the moment. Right here, right now. How you live your life today will be the refection of tomorrow. Always remember that!
6- Don't feel guilty if you don't know what to do with your life.
This doesn't mean to don't care about your life. It means that worrying won't help with your doubts. Find the meaning and purpose of your life a day at the time.
7- Stretch, dance and look after your body.
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own. Try to eat as healthy as you can, don't do too much of one thing. Moderation is the key.
8- Try to procrastinate less.
I know when you are young is easy to procrastinate, we feel like we have the time of the world to do things. If you leave everything for tomorrow, tomorrow will never come.
9- Travel as much as you can.
Travelling is one of the most open minded experiences.You will gain experiences, knowledge, and empathy which could not be acquired at home.
10- Do not read beauty or stalker magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
I'm impressed with amount of negativity these celebrity magazines have. It's all about who looks fatter here and that or skinny or who has cellulite. When did degrading other women became entertaining? I don't see men doing this. These magazines are run mainly by women and they are attacking other women. The message they are giving to younger girls is terrible, making women focus more in the way they look, making them feel insecure.