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What being a feminist means in today’s world and why we should stop using the word feminist.

Today after all what I see is happening around the world, I can only say that I feel disappointed with our obsession with labelling, judging and separating one another, from gender, race, cultural, class, sexuality etc..I applaud all the men and women around the world trying to speak up against any form of inequality, whether is gender, race, class etc..

Earlier this summer, Emma Watson, was named a U.N. Women Goodwill Ambassador and made headlines around the world for her gender equality speech. After she finished her degree in English literature she also had to juggle her career and education ever since she shot to fame as Hermione Granger in the Harry Potter film series. Even today, hoards of people gather for events like Hogwarts In The Snow, proof that the Harry Potter craze is still going strong. Yet Emma Watson managed to gave an impassioned speech on feminism and gender at the U.N. headquarters in New York to launch the ‘HeForShe’ campaign which aims to galvanize one billion men and boys as advocates for ending the inequalities that women and girls face globally. In her own words:

‘Feminism can and should mean different things to all people, but that all people should embrace it. "Feminism is not here to dictate to you. It’s not prescriptive, it’s not dogmatic. All we are here to do is give you a choice. If you want to run for President, you can. If you don’t, that’s wonderful, too.’
‘Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong.’
I cannot agree more with that, one of the reasons we don’t value men’s parenting role is that we still expect fathers to stoically take on being the family’s protector and provider. Any man who transgresses this norm, whether he’s a “househusband” or an “absent father”, is viewed as not being a “real man”.
We collectively create the expectation of what makes a “real man” in lots of different ways. Believing in something should not dictate you, I believe is more about making your own choices. What makes you happy, what makes you a better person. We are individuals and we should always follow what is best for us, in the whole, happy individuals will create better societies…Pointing fingers is never going to help. It’s about addressing the power imbalances that limit people’s opportunities to live their lives to the fullest.

A woman who chooses to stay at home to look after her kids is not less feminist than a woman who chooses to work. Like Watson said: Feminism can and should mean different things to all people. Perhaps we should stop using the word feminism, perhaps we should stop using labels for everything. Seems to me feminism is always related to women hating man, even in the feminist spectrum you’ll find division, liberal feminism, radical, socialist, cultural and the list goes on. It is not about following a list of points in order to be part of a group. I think it is more a matter of human rights, not of enlightened self-interest. At the end of the day everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.

5 comentarios:

  1. Hallelujah! I love that you tackle the problem of parenting. The problem that I've faced recently was that some of the girls consider feminism as a one-sided thing and they just judge man no matter what and they say, that you cannot be a feminist if you are a man. I believe that we can all be feminists and it should be about equality and not about how someone judges other sex. My boyfriend is a feminist. Sounds weird, right? But I would say that he is even a bigger feminist than I am. And this is the beautiful thing about the time we are living in.

  2. I love what you wrote about this subject! For me, feminism is never about women hating men, or girls ruling the world. It's about equality, and having a choice without being judged, as your remarked.

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  3. Yes it's about equality. I know men also face discrimination because of their gender! So both side should always support equity! :)

  4. Great post! It should be about equality for everyone, I completely agree. xx


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