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5 Things most people regret 5 minutes before dying

Bronnie Ware worked for many years in palliative care, where she learned a lot spending time with patiences the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
'People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality, and I've learned never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth.  
Some changes were phenomenal. With every experience, a variety of unexpected emotions such as denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. But each patient found their peace before leaving each'
When I  asked them about any regret that they had or anything they would have liked to do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. These are the most common five: 
1. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone without being fulfilled. Many people had not reached even half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or those that had not.
From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health gives a freedom that few recognize, until they no longer have.


Bronnie Ware trabajó durante muchos años en cuidados paliativos , donde aprendió mucho al pasar tiempo con patiences los últimos tres a doce semanas de sus vidas.' La gente crece mucho cuando se enfrentan a su propia mortalidad , y he aprendido a no subestimar la capacidad de una persona para el crecimiento.Algunos cambios fueron fenomenales . Con cada experiencia , una gran variedad de emociones inesperadas, tales como la negación, miedo, enojo , remordimiento, más negación y finalmente aceptación. Pero cada paciente encontró su paz antes de salir de cada uno 'Cuando les pregunté acerca de cualquier cosa que les hubiera gustado hacer de otra manera , los temas comunes surgieron una y otra vez . Estos son los cinco más comunes:

1. Me gustaría tener el valor de vivir una vida fiel a mí mismo, no la vida que otros esperan de mí.  
Este fue el lamento más común de todos. Cuando las personas se dan cuenta de que su vida está a punto de terminar y miran hacia atrás con claridad, es fácil ver cómo muchos sueños se han ido sin ser cumplido. Muchas personas no habían llegado ni a la mitad de sus sueños y tenía que morir sabiendo que era debido a las elecciones que habían hecho, o las que no habían hecho.
Desde el momento en que se pierde la salud, ya es demasiado tarde. Salud da una libertad que pocos reconocen, hasta que ya no tienen.


2. I wish I haven't  invested so much time just working.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They lost the childhood of their children and their partners the company
All the men I nursed deeply regretted having spent much of their lives at work.

2. Ojalá no hubiera invertido tanto tiempo  trabajando.

Esto vino de cada paciente de sexo masculino que cuidé. Se perdieron la infancia de sus hijos y de sus parejas. Todos los hombres que cuide lamentaron profundamente haber pasado gran parte de su vida en el trabajo.

3. I wish I had had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and they never became what they were capable of being. Many diseases develop as a result of bitterness and resentment.
 3. Desearía haber tenido el coraje para expresar mis sentimientos.

Muchas personas suprimieron sus sentimientos con el fin de mantener la paz con los demás. Como resultado, se conformaron con una existencia mediocre y nunca llegaron a ser lo que eran capaces de ser. Muchas enfermedades se desarrollan como resultado de la amargura y el resentimiento.

4. I wish I had spent more time with my friends.

We don't realize how beneficial are old friends until their last weeks of life. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had neglected friendships. There was much regret for not giving friendship time and effort that they deserved.
In the end, it all comes down to love and relationships. That's all we have left in our last weeks: love and relationships. 
4. Me hubiera gustado haber pasado más tiempo con mis amigos.  

No nos damos cuenta lo beneficios que son viejos amigos hasta sus últimas semanas de vida. Muchos de ellos habían llegado a estar tan atrapados en sus propias vidas que habían descuidado amistades. Habia mucho pesar por no dar tiempo y esfuerzo  a las amistades.
Al final, todo se reduce al amor y las relaciones. Eso es todo lo que tenemos en nuestras últimas semanas de vida: el amor y las relaciones.

 5. I wish I had allowed myself to be happier.

Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiar things flowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them deceiving others and themselves, pretending they were happy. When deep down, wanted laughter and nonsense back to their lives. When you're on your deathbed, what others think of you is far from your mind. 

I hope this post help us to realize that life is too short to stay in our comfort zone, to not follow our dreams, to keep resentment in our hearts, to care what other people think and to work all day only for money. LIVE LIFE NOW, TOMORROW MIGHT BE TOO LATE.

5. Ojalá me habiese permitido ser más feliz.

Muchos no se dieron cuenta hasta el final de que la felicidad es una elección. Se habían quedado atrapados en patrones y hábitos antiguos. El llamado "confort" de las cosas familiares fluyó en sus emociones, así como su vida física. El miedo al cambio les había engañar a los demás ya sí mismos, pretendiendo que eran felices. Cuando en el fondo, quería risas y tonterías de nuevo a sus vidas. Cuando usted está en su lecho de muerte, lo que los demás piensen de ti esta lejos de tu mente.

Espero que este post nos ayude a darnos cuenta de que la vida es demasiado corta como para permanecer en nuestra zona de confort, para no seguir nuestro corazon y sueños, para mantener el resentimiento en nuestros corazones, para importarnos lo que otras personas piensan y para trabajar todo el día tan sólo por dinero. VIVE LA VIDA ahora, mañana puede ser demasiado tarde.

 Via: inspirationandchai.com

14 comentarios:

  1. I think #3 is the only one that hits home for me out of this list. I'm quite a rebel so I already do #1 and I'm not too big on working like #2.

    Definitely worth thinking about though... what will your regret be when you die - if you can change it now, you should.

    erin, beingerin.com

  2. Aun soy un poco joven para algunas de las reflexiones de este post, pero espero aplicarlas en un futuro!

  3. Great post, I think people need to heard this type of thing! I see myself very much as the peacemaker! Life is about now! :) Happiness is too important to waste x

  4. #5 Hit me right in the chest,I'm so critical of myself and a lot of the time I won't allow myself happiness until everything is at the standard I want for mysel, deifnitely working on that
    Deejay Speaks

  5. It is all about time balance and being true to oneself, easier said than done. But as we progress we hope we make the right decisions for less regrets not only at the end but as we continue in life. xx

  6. love this post, these big 5 where a main theme of an article in Flow Magazin and really encouraged me to go on with my business and my choise of being happy. Thanks for that. xx

  7. Interesting post Victoria, a lot of this is resonating with me right now and i guess this is the encouragement i needed to just "go for it"! Thanks for this! :)


    Sade xo

  8. This is such a good post. It is so important to know these things so that we can all make the right choices now, when we are healthy and capable. Thank you for the reminder.

  9. I'm so glad I read this post!! These are all so important to me so it was nice to be able to reconsider everything. thank you for stopping by my blog, I'm your newest follower!

  10. This really got me thinking. I think that indeed a lot of people realize - when it's too late - that they should have spent less time on work and more time with their loved ones. And with a lot of people I mean myself included...

  11. I guess I will either regret #1 or #3...
    But #1 is really something to think about, it's hard to be yourself.

  12. Well this was great to read, I really identify the part in no.1 about health giving you 'power'. Last year was the first year of my life I had to deal with proper health issues, eye surgery etc etc and lying in bed helpless, I really understood why my parents banged on and on about the importance of 'good health' when I was younger.

    I'm surprised the list did not had: spending more time with family. I'm alive and thats what I wish I had done now as my parents are now over 60. I hate using the word 'regret', so I would say looking back I wish I had put less importance on my friends and more on building an even better r.ship with my parents.

    Coz its only as I grew older and lost a best friend of 20yrs plus who I thought was my sister, that I understood and fully appreciated the unconditional love of my parents. Ok. The End.

  13. Great post. It's very true we often focus on things that aren't truly important


  14. Mi papá me pasó este mail el año pasado y de repente lo sigue usando como referencia.
    Yo tengo problemas para decirle a la gente que la quiero.... no sé por qué. :S Pero por lo demás creo que lleno los otros puntos, unos más y otros menos, pero creo que en la medida de lo que me ha tocado, soy feliz. :) jaja


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